As Parents, we desperately want to do the best for our children, and we are constantly looking for ideas, thoughts & activities, that could make their lives more successful and happy in the future.
Kids today face way more Stress than we ever did, with social media, college entrance, and relationships all putting our children under huge Pressure, and if they don’t manage these stresses naturally, then they are tempted to turn to Drugs, Alcohol and Pills which are all too easily available.
It’s crucially important for parents to be looking at ways to empower their kids to manage these enhanced stresses to help them avoid the drug trap, and to lead them to the future that you would want for them.
Now the 5 GREAT principles offer a wonderful opportunity for the entire family to learn how to manage Stress and Pressure more effectively, and to make it fun in the process
Before we get to outlining these principles, lets consider in more detail the threat to our children, using the latest stats and quotes from recent Stress & Pressure books.
Because Stress stimulates the sympathetic nervous system, it impacts on heart, bowels, immune system, memory – so start realizing the huge positive impact managing stress will have on your health, life and happiness.
60-90% of all illness in the USA is stress related (Harvard) – we are not designed to deal with constant, excessive pressure – it has never been part of our existence, until the last few 100 years, and in particular, the last 50 years!
If you experience everyday as an emergency, then your body will use up your available energy to deal with the stress, and won’t be storing in energy – that’s when you get fatigue, and that will bring with it another set of problems – so a spiral into disaster starts becoming a possibility
Emotional effects include;
Lack of judgement
In his book “LEADERS EAT LAST”, SIMON SINEK talks about the dangers of stress and pressure for the modern generation:
“For a huge number of those affected by the alcohol, their drinking began when they were TEENAGERS. It is a time in our lives when almost all of us have to deal with feelings of insecurity and inadequacy. It is a time when we transition from needing the approval of our parents, to needing the approval of our peers – a need that lasts a lifetime.”
The way we learn to deal with our struggles and anxieties during adolescence is likely to become the way we deal with these challenges for the rest of our adult lives”
“the bottom line is that 13 to 18 year olds are left almost completely vulnerable to the addictive qualities of dopamine releasing activities – such as online social media, alcohol, food, smoking, drugs and even gambling.
How a young person spends their time will have a profound effect on what their brain will be like for the rest of their lives. The facts so far suggest that a large percentage of kids will grow up without the necessary coping skills to deal with the stresses they will face”.
Universities today are experiencing a “mini epidemic” of depression among students, and as many as 1 in 6 college students have been diagnosed with or treated for Anxiety.
In 2015, the National Institute of Mental Health reports that the number of young people between the ages of 12 and 17 who experienced a major depressive episode increased nearly 50% from the figure in 2005. In fact, teenagers now suffer depression at a rate twice that of adults.
Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among people 15 to 24.
In kids 10 to 14, in period between 1999 and 2014, the percentage increase in suicide rates for girls trebled! Teenage girls use social media twice as much as the boys, and have a rate of depression 5x that of boys”.
Add to this the terrible occurance of school shootings, and the impact of stress on young children is obvious.
“There’s no app to fix addiction, depression or suicide or any other anti social behavior – these are human problems that require human solutions”
“Stress also negatively affects families by excessive moodiness, irritability and inter personal conflict” – says Arthur Ciaramicoli in his book “the Stress Solution”
“Self care habits – we see parents drink to release stress, or eat sweet foods, or shout at each other – and we learn these skills. Now it’s time to create new habits and let our children and grandchildren learn a new and more beneficial system.”
Social Support, such as FAMILY, is important for reducing stress
Studies show that when facing a stressor such as a public speech or math test or having 2 strangers argue with them, when on their own their stress levels were higher, and with a friend or family next to them, the stress level was lower.
People with spouses or close friends have longer life expectancies – when the spouse dies, the risk of dying skyrockets.
We know that it’s vitally important to get the 4 naturally occurring hormones (DOSE) into our systems on a regular basis, in order to counter the negative effects of excessive adrenaline and cortisol, which are released when we are under pressure.
It doesn’t help to try and avoid stressors, or repress them, that only increases the stress you feel. Better to accept our world is full of stressors, some really big, and learn to not just manage them, but to enjoy dealing with them, Reframe them to be a wonderful challenge of Life.
We learn to manage stress over time, especially if we are aware of how it works, and what the benefits are of managing it
In the same way that your first parachute jump will most likely have you anxious for days before hand, and terrified on the actual day, by the time you reach your 10th jump, all the psychological stress will disappear, and the only stress will be the physical one when you are about to jump.
The 5 GREAT principles, practiced and made into a Habit, now offer a healthy, practicle solution for the entire family to learn how to manage Stress and Pressure more effectively, and to make it fun in the process, as it doesn’t take up any extra time in one’s day. You will all be guaranteed a happier, more energized and successful life. LET’S START NOW.